Divorce & Separation
Choosing to separate or divorce is a major life decision, and one of the biggest ones you will make in your life. There will be a multitude of thoughts and feelings racing through your mind and heart, logistics to understand and tackle and decisions to be made. Discernment counseling is a process that helps couples with this process of making this important decision, hopefully from a balanced place as opposed to a reactive position. If the decision is to separate and/or divorce it can be a therapeutic forum to understand “what happened”, “how to behave right now”, “bring closure to the relationship” and “determine how to be in the aftermath of divorce”. These questions are explored from each individual’s perspective, needs and wants. Often when children are involved more issues are addressed and more decisions need to be made. A myriad of complexities can ensue, and counseling is a place where parents can understand the issues their children will go through, prepare for the difficult questions and make good decisions as to protect and maintain the health and well-being of their children.
Choosing to end a legal relationship is more difficult than starting one. There are lawyers, mediators and in general, the legal system to deal with. The process can be confusing and daunting. Being informed and equipped to deal with the legalities is essential. Counseling helps empower you to work efficiently and wisely with this process.
The separation process gives you and your partner the opportunity to explore and experience how you feel towards your partner and to make certain you want to divorce. The time period of separation varies from couple to couple, yet is usually between 3 and 12 months. Counseling is maintained through the separation time and serves as a platform for meaning conversations.